The Blame Game: When Parents Lose Perspective on Accidents The recent letters to Care and Feeding from "Skateboard Scrape" and "Mistakes Happen" highlight a common phenomenon in parenting: the tendency to seek scapegoats when children get hurt.
In both cases, mothers are quick to blame friends or family members who brought potentially hazardous items into their homes. This behavior is not unique to these two parents.
Many of us fall prey to assigning blame when accidents occur, often as a way to deflect responsibility from our own children. However, this approach can have far reaching consequences for both kids and adults.